Believe it or not, using one pronoun over another can actually improve a parent-child relationship.
Using “I” over “you” is one such example.
When Mom tells Joey, “I like it better when your bed is made in the morning,” he knows she is talking about herself.
But if Mom says, “You didn’t make your bed this morning,” Joey knows the finger is pointing directly at him.
With this approach, you take responsibility for the situation; you put it under your control. You direct the child’s attention toward pleasing you – his parent or teacher – rather than on naughty behavior.