November 19, 2017

Super Power of Focus – A Tool to Save Your Sanity

Are you trying to get your kid through a morning or evening routine that appears to be simple enough to you, but overwhelming to your child?

At times, a kid’s attention seems to wonder too far or be too fixed on one thing.

Either way, he is not focusing on what you need him to do.

 Trying to find that focus point can be a hair pulling experience.

To grow any worthwhile skill it would take some attention focused on that skill until it becomes part of you. 

What better way to learn a skill than repetitive action?

Isn’t that what Coach would preach as he made you do the 10th lay-up, lap, or lunge?

Following along that concept, I put together a simple morning and evening checklist of basic actions I wanted my son to develop a skill doing. 

The actions on the checklist change as he masters one and we can move up to the next skill – like martial artist moving up in belt rank.

I have been pilot testing them for the past few months. I haven’t checked myself in anywhere:  So far, so good!

He understands what he needs to do and can re-focus on the task at hand by re-reading the checklist point he needs to finish.

He lost interest a few times throughout the pilot. I would renew it with praise and rewards, after all you get what you put your attention on (good or bad), right?

I have implemented his pay (previously called the antiquated “allowance”) system based on # of Finished Points on a daily basis. We count it up at the end of the week and that is how he makes some of his money. That gives him an nice incentive.

This rewards production and skill development – it is not a hand-out. That is not the life style or lesson I want him to learn.

We tried a set dollar amount for those days he completed all the points. That was a no-go. I should have asked him to navigate the titanic away from the iceberg.

Most days he is not going to get them ALL done, but you should see a steady increase in points done each day.

Hopefully, this idea works for you!  I am including downloadable copies of it on my website site under the Tools tab.

I laminated the master copies for his chore board in the kitchen and made black & white copies for him to mark off daily. 

Instead of the common plea, “I forgot!” when pleading for weekend TV privileges, all I have to do is reference the checklist.

There is no way to forget when it is in writing and easy to find.

Let me know what you run into and any ideas you might have.

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  1. Jan Houston-Solari says:

    Love this! The idea of a written checklist to help a child OR adult focus is a great reminder.

    Thanks for the tip! Keep up the great work!

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